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Julie's Domestic Violence Story


Julie's domestic violence story comes from a very brave woman, who despite still being a current victim of abuse, still thinks and cares enough about other domestic abuse victims to want to tell her story and warn them.

I currently am still in my violent relationship - I am still a current abuse victim.

I'd like to share my domestic violence story. To hopefully help some one realize it's never okay.

Somehow violence and abuse is all I've really ever known ... . A lot of my childhood memories consist of my father beating up my mom. I remember us running away into the pitch black night, trying to escape from the monster at home. I can still hear my pleas as a child to my father to stop. I can still feel the pain.

I always said it would never happen to me. I was sure that it couldn't! I was strong and determined to never live through that again. But despite all my convictions and determinations, it still happened.

In one instant he took all that away. I met him when I was 15 years old. I never really knew what happiness was and I thought that I had found that happiness in and with him. He knew of my past struggles. He knew that I was raised in terrible poverty, that I was sexually abused, and rejected by my father.

The first year of our relationship met all my expectations of happiness. I was in love. Deeply in love. Little could I have guessed that my own personal domestic violence story was about to start ...

At 16 I learned I was pregnant with a little girl. It was during my pregnancy that the abuse began, both emotional and physical. With no warning signs he would smack me, pull my hair, spit at me and just break me down emotionally with his cruel words.

Two years later I was pregnant again. He didn't attend my second daughter's birth. He didn't want to.

He kept me isolated, basically I was a prisoner in my own home. No family. No friends. No support.

And then, only four months later I was pregnant again. This time with fraternal twin boys. I was made to sleep on the floor. I was raped continuously, called a whore - all types of terrible names. I was given black eyes, busted lips, a broken noses, bruises all over my body. I had been hit with belts, cable wires, hangers, sticks, knifes, you name it, chances are I was hit with it. On one occasion I landed in the ER because he pushed me off a second floor. I had surgery and returned home to the same abuse ... .

The things he says still linger in my head.

I live in fear.
I'm so afraid.
Love shouldn't hurt.
Love should set you free.

~ Julie

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Just a quick update from Julie. All is well as can be. At least I'm still alive. I'm still in the same situation. Going to make a run from it soon. …

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Mandy's Story

Recommended Reading:

Lundy Bancroft has written what is probably the most comprehensive and readable book on domestic violence, the beliefs of the abuser and the dynamics of abuse. This truly is a MUST READ for anyone seriously trying to understand domestic abuse and how to cope with an abusive relationship:

To order in the US: Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

To order in the UK: Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

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UK National Domestic Violence Freephone number 0808 2000 247

In this supportive and straightforward guide, Lundy Bancroft (Why Does He Do That?) and JAC Patrissi offer a way for women to practically take stock of their relationships and move forward with or without their partners. Women involved in chronically frustrating or unfulfilling relationships will learn to: · Tell the difference between a healthy-yet-difficult relationship and one that is really not working · Recognise the signs that their partner has a serious problem · Stop waiting to see what happens and make their own growth the top priority · Prepare for life without their partner even as they keep trying to make the relationship work:

To order in the US: Should I Stay or Should I Go?: A Guide to Knowing if Your Relationship Can--and Should--be Saved

To order in the UK: Should I Stay or Should I Go?: A Guide to Sorting Out Whether Your Relationship Can-and Should-Be Saved

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