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Sep 18, 2016

I've stopped contact... He hasn't

I left my abusive partner 18 months ago and stopped contact - declined to talk to him or respond after about 3 months. After this I started receiving

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Sep 18, 2016

Lack of Money

There always seems a lack of money. She is never satisfied with what I provide. There is never enough money. No matter how much there it's never enough.

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Jul 31, 2016

Subjected to No Contact

Hello, She cut all the contact with me, and it was very painful, because I loved her. Through her friends I indirectly found that I've been accused of

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Jul 30, 2016

I know the feeling.

Hello Julie, My name is krystal, I am 20 years old, with two wonderful little boys, one is four about to be five, one is almost two months. A year ago

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Jul 30, 2016

Suffering 2

I have previously written another article about my partner, about financial abuse. He also physically abuse me, in many occasion I been to the doctor::

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Jul 30, 2016


I have been living with my partner for two years, before I meet I had money on my credit card and bank account: he used all of that and now he denies doing

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Jun 15, 2016

Each return makes it a little worse

Nola, and to anyone else in the same situation, I have been there. I was a victim of domestic violence, domestic abuse, verbal abuse, coercive control,

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Jun 15, 2016

if things go bad

Nola if things go bad you have to promise this to yourself and your kids: that you will leave. You owe it to yourself. You can't live like that again.

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Jun 10, 2016

Certified Child and Family advocate

Thank You for your interest in financial abuse. I had had a long time partner who had lived in my home with me. My home had been paid off and I had no

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Jun 09, 2016

child abuse and domestic violence

Erin grew up experiencing child abuse and witnessing domestic violence. By 26 she had already experienced far too much child abuse and domestic violence.

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Jun 08, 2016

Domestic Violence Poems 3

Domestic violence poems about their experiences of and feelings about abusive relationships by survivors of domestic violence and abuse, and the Joy of finally being free of abuse!

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May 29, 2016

Bipolar justification for abuse?

I live in abuse everyday. I was diagnosed with bipolar last year when my abuser told me i had to check into the mental hospital or he would kick me out

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May 29, 2016

the love for your kids is stronger than anything

I know leaving might not be easy, but just as you remember your father beating your mom don't let that be the memory that your daughters and sons have!

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May 29, 2016

Someone to reach out to?

Hi Julie. My name is Seher. I'm married with 2 kids, they're the world to me. I'm so sorry for what you're going through. If you need someone to talk to,

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May 29, 2016

Julie's Domestic Violence Story

Julie's domestic violence story comes from a very brave woman, who despite still being a current victim of abuse, still thinks and cares enough about other domestic abuse victims to want to tell her story and warn them.

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May 29, 2016

Hi Julie - I want to give you a gift

Hi Julie, I really hope this message reaches you. I’ve read the comments and you seem to have gotten better which is outstanding news! My name is Ethan,

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May 29, 2016

But He's My Husband

Hi my name is Lisa. I'm 40 years old and have been married for two years to my abuser. I love my husband and I fear my husband. I always wanted to be

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May 25, 2016

Too close for comfort

My ex narc discarded me about 7 months ago after a 2 month hoover in which I fell for. Said he was only back to socialize. That drove me in to full no

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May 25, 2016

Finally... NO CONTACT

Abused off and on for 9 years. Discarded/devalued more times than I could count. He always hoovered me back in. THIS time ... I'd had enough. His devaluation

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May 25, 2016

Absolutely no Contact

Has the No Contact Rule helped with your recovery or helped to keep you safe? What can I say ... years of therapy and the single most important strategy

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May 25, 2016

No contact is different than no response.

No Contact: when I finally realized my ex was an N was pivotal in my recovery. I still left openings at first for him to play games and please don't mistake

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May 25, 2016

Rockin' in Rockford

For me, the 4th time was the charm and it was actually pretty easy because I was finally ready. I already knew what he was and there was no hope. I already

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May 23, 2016

No contact is beautiful

Rarely in life can you achieve so much by doing NOTHING. And doing nothing is just what going No Contact is. it is NOT returning the calls, not answering

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May 23, 2016


I went out with a man I knew was danger, but I thought I could handle it. Rebellion is my middle name and there was a lot going on that I wanted to escape

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May 23, 2016

Don't take any notice of them - BE STRONG :)

I have had to learn not to take any notice of them and what they say, but to BE STRONG. I have been split from my abuser two years, and it's very hard.

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May 23, 2016

Withholding money after an Argument

I suffered all of the forms of financial abuse mentioned in the page on financial abuse. But as well as those mentioned, he would withhold money for me

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May 22, 2016

Stuck in Poverty

I feel as though throughout my whole marriage I was stuck in poverty, My husband frequently quit jobs, or took farming or part time jobs, earning little

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May 22, 2016

You can do this

You can do this. It apparently takes 7 attempts on average to leave an abusive relationship. I had tried to leave so many times. When I finally left

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Oct 12, 2015

Sorry for this but i want to make this change

Sorry for this but i want to make this change. Reading through everything you have gone through and continue to go through, I am determined to help make

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Oct 07, 2015

hello this is julie

Hello this is Julie with a bit of an update for all of you who have so kindly been supporting me with your messages. :) I've found my inner strength!

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