Remember how to Relax

Remember how to Relax

by A Survivor

It might take a while to remember how to relax ...

After "walking on eggshells" and predicting mood swings and always being ready for the next attack be it physical or mental, we (survivors) forget how to completely and genuinely relax. Well now is our chance! We're free!

I realised after five months of freedom that I had finally learnt how to breath calmly and at peace again, without stress or worry or panic and heightened senses to watch and predict my attacker's next movements and emotions.

I strongly suggest to every survivor when the sun is out, bring out paints or play dough etc for the kids to be happy, busy and give you some peace. You put your feet up read a book, stroke the dog and just let time slip by.

Think about how you got out and no matter how hard that was, you did it!! YOU!! Well done you! You and your child/children are safe and free, we now have happy fulfilled lives ahead! Gone are the days of simply existing!!

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Remember how to Relax

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May 05, 2011
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Just so true!
by: Hidden Hurt

Hi and yes, that is just so true. I forgot what it felt like to relax too and even years later I still sometimes realise that I have fallen back into the emotional pattern of feeling tense and 'waiting' and have to consciously relax and reassure myself that there is no need for being vigilant any more.

Thanks for the reminder and since the sun is shining, I will go and have a cup of tea outside now! :)

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