Do Not Isolate Yourself

by A domestic violence survivor
(US)

It is so tempting to hide the hurt after an abusive relationship literally by hiding yourself to the real world. You might do this by either physically separating yourself from other people or by keeping a mental guard up. But do not isolate yourself: let people in and ask for help. You will be awed by how much support is out there.

You could also keep a journal so you can release your thoughts instead of keeping them locked in. Joining support groups online and in person is the best thing you can do to heal. Read as much as you can on what you have gone through.

My recommended reading list is:

A Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck
A New Earth by Ekhart Tolle
The Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout
And any Patricia Evans Books, eg the one on verbally abusive relationships.

These are all US based authors but their books are prolific and available at most public libraries.