Writing down everything he has done pysical and verbal ... when, where and why in table form.

by Anon

Write down everything he has done physical and verbal,social, sexual etc ... when(m/y), where and why in table form.

You will understand your feelings, and what you have been through/going through. and how often, how inappropriate, and his so called reasons for abuse.

Comment from Moderator:
That is such a good idea and one we would all benefit from doing. Writing the 'bad times' down in detail can be hard and emotional, but it does help us to recognise the pattern of abuse, and -when those times come along when we try to tell ourselves that it really wasn't that bad and we might be tempted to give it another try (and that happens to most of us!) - then we can refer back to our list or table and be reminded what sort of crazy and potentially dangerous situation we were in and it help us to avoid stepping back into it or feelings or guilt about ending the relationship. Good idea!