Personal Domestic Violence Stories

This page is devoted to all the wonderful brave people who have had the strength to live through the Hell which is Domestic Abuse, the strength to fight it and break free, and share their domestic violence stories, feelings and experiences to help others.

If you would like your story included on this page, please email me. Thank you.

• Amelia's Domestic Violence Story - "The main effect of this violence was that I started to change - I stopped being myself. I would avoid any conversation with friends when we were out that would have anything to do with my life before him, I didn't look at or talk to other men."
• Danna's Physical Abuse Story -"In most cases people say it started in a regular pattern, not with me. I would be sitting on the sofa and for no reason be smashed across the face from nowhere, no reason, no answers, just left to deal with my tears."

• May's Emotional Abuse Story -"I thought that because he never actually hit me (he just threatened to if I didn't shut up), that it wasn't classed as abuse. I've always been afraid of him, so I've worked myself and our 4 children around pleasing him in order to maintain peace."
• Freya's Story - As a 16 year old girl, Freya found herself in an emotionally and physically abusive relationship. Here she tells her story of how quickly she got hooked in and how difficult it was to leave.
• Abigail's Story - A young Christian Woman tells her personal story of an emotionally and physically abusive relationship and her road to healing and recovery.
• Emma's Story - "You'd never pick him out as an abuser, he was small built and never got into fights and everyone who met him thought he was a sweet guy. ..."
• Evie's Story - A Chance to be Myself ... That's All? - From a shy withdrawn 19 year old meeting what appeared to be an older, wiser man, this incredible woman charts her descent into domestic violence and forced prostitution and the turning point to finally breaking free and having a chance to find herself.
• Louise's Story - "We were only together 10 months yet it feels like it lasted a lifetime ..." Still waiting to be truly free, this brave woman traces clearly the subtle web which entangled her in an abusive relationship with a married man.
• Ange and Brian's Story - "This is the story of Ange - my wife, Me – Brian and how we came together from opposite sides of the world and how Ange was able to get out of a hell that was her life."
• Kiara's Story - married to an abuser for 5 years, Kiara gives us an insight into how it feels, not only to live in an abusive marriage, but also the condemning attitudes of other people, including people from her own Church.
• Carla's Story - a really touching story of Carla as a child witnessing and being implicated in her stepfather's abuse. For all those that think the kids aren't affected ... read this!
• Vella's Story - a touching and terrifying story from a courageous and caring survivor who found that emotional and mental abuse can and does lead to pure evil violence and even murder.
• M.P.'s Story - abuse can hit at any age ... MP, now in her early twenties, shows how a confident 17-year old found her self-esteem eroded as the abusive relationship progressed and shares with us her determination to rebuild her life.
• Rachel's Story - from a normal boyfriend/girlfriend to battery and intimate rape, recovery and reaching out to help others, this strong and loving survivor shares her experiences and feelings with us. From the authoress of Aphrodite Wounded, an excellent informative and personal website on Intimate Rape.
• Anna's Story - ... "I never once realised that I was suffering from domestic violence thinking that it was only related to physical not mental abuse ... "
• J.'s Story - written by a very brave 13-year old who is just starting on the road to healing following a childhood of witnessing the abuse of her mother and brothers and suffering violence at the hands of her father herself.
• There IS Life after abuse! - "I was in an abusive relationship that lasted for 21 years. By the time I left I was barely functioning. I thought I was crazy. Now, six long, hard, incredible years later not only have I managed to survive, but I have also found contentment, my soul mate, and, most importantly, myself along the way. There IS life after abuse. This is my story ... "
• Intervention and Knowledge - After being raised in an abusive household and then suffering 10 years of further abuse in her marriage, this brave survivor stays determined to continue the battle for freedom ...
• Hannah's Story - "... I want some people to hear my story and hopfully this will help people understand it's a long road out but in the end there is light if you let it in ..."
• Joanne's Story - with honesty and clarity this brave survivor details the path she travelled into an abusive relationship, the struggles and emotional hurdles faced in finally leaving and starting on the road to peace.
• Charlotte's Story - The punching started on the first anniversary - the first of many in six years of mental and physical abuse ...
• A Bed of Thorns - "I know when it began, only, I don’t know why. I remember the first time like it was yesterday. I can still see his face; see the anger and hatred etched upon it. It happened so fast. I never saw it coming. I learned a lot then. I learnt to notice the signs. I learnt to do as I was told. That was how I learned to walk on egg shells – it’s an art that must be mastered. Only I could never quite master it, not to his standards anyway ..."
• Belinda's Story - The story of a middle class Jamaican girl suffering 9 years of brutality told with clarity, honesty and much courage: "I saw the first sign of jealousy only one week into our relationship. I was flattered, a near fatal mistake. ..."
• Lost the Battle but Won the War - this is the awesome story of one women and her experience of life in Ireland from the fifties to the present day, from early abuse as a child through an abusive marriage and the abuse of the legal system set up to protect her, culminating in her final escape.
• When I want your opinions .... (a prayer for that woman I still love) - "An Internet date can lead to unpredictable outcomes. When that person’s life is shaped by undiagnosed issues or unresolved yesterdays - or both - you know you’re going to hurt. Sad thing is, you just never know."
• Becky's Story - "I am still 16 years old but I know I have learned the biggest lesson in my life and I know from this boy I will not be taking any hassle off any boy again. Please follow in my tracks and stand up for yourself ..."
• Recovering from Marital Rape: a Personal Journey - "It was three years since I had last been assaulted, I had gone over and over everything, knew all the facts and stats and jargon. I thought I had worked through it and largely 'got over it', and yet this experience made me realise that in actual fact I had not really healed at all, was nowhere near 'over it'."
• Varda's Story - "I suffered 17 years of violence of all forms, my children were also victims of physical and mental abuse ... then one day he went too far ..."

Poetry

On this page you can find a selection of Poetry and Prose either by Survivors or on abuse. If you have a poem or anything else you have written to share with us, please email me. Thank you.

To read all the poems, click here!

Or choose from the list of peoms below:

• The Survivor's Psalm
• Standing Tall
• Please don't put me in this box ...
• Silence
• If I cry alone
• Epitaph to a Marriage
• We open our hearts so freely
• Hope
• Who?
• I can say No
• False Affirmations
• We hide in Silence
• Lessons from a walk in the dark
• UNBROKEN VOWS
• Like a bird
• 2 o'clock
• No Happy Ending
• Deadly Storm
• What a Lad!
• A Childhood Lost
• At the top of the stairs
• I can't

Prose

• An Open Letter - an Open letter to her abuser from a survivor.
• Dear You ... - an Open Letter to her abuser from a survivor.