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Mr Wrong and Mr RightBeing about to tell Mr Wrong and Mr Right apart can help us avoid an abusive relationship. While the abusive person is our foe within a relationship, the non-abusive person is our friend. This information on Mr Wrong and Mr Right
has kindly been provided by Pat Craven who runs The
Freedom Programme ©
Sometimes when we are in a relationship we feel so confused that it is difficult knowing whether our relationship is 'normal' or not. Our gut feeling might be a good indicatior, but since abusive people are more often than not very emotionally manipulating, it is useful to have some sort of external guide to help us determine whether the traits we observe in our partner are basically abusive or non-abusive. Is our partner trying to be our Friend or trying to be our Foe? A fair number of people who find themselves in abusive relationships have also grown up in dysfunctional households and have not had the opportunity of witnessing healthy relationships. To them, abusive behaviour may appear 'normal'. It is not, and there are many men and women who are capable and keen to share healthy relationships - the important thing for us is to be able to tell Mr (or Mrs!) Wrong from Mr (or Mrs!) Right. Mr Wrong - the abusive man ...
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In This Section:The Abuser
Related Pages:Types of Abuse Recommended Reading:Living with the Dominator by Pat
Craven is the book to accompany the Freedom Programme in the UK. This book
should be compulsory in schools - the information is so clear and so obvious
and such an eye-opener! After studying domestic violence issues for years, this
is the one book which finally enabled me to click it all into place and answer
all my whys. Just read it:
To order in the US: Living With the Dominator 
(Kindle version only - and well worth buying a Kindle just to get this book!)
To order in the UK: Living with the Dominator: A Book About the Freedom Programme: 1 Lundy Bancroft has written what is
probably the most comprehensive and readable book on domestic violence,
the beliefs of the abuser and the dynamics of abuse. This truly is a MUST READ
for anyone seriously trying to understand domestic abuse and how to cope with
an abusive relationship:
To order in the US: Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men 
To order in the UK: Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men Boundaries
and Relationships: Knowing, Protecting and Enjoying the Self Boundaries:
When to Say Yes, How to Say No, to Take Control of Your Life
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For a sample chapter from the book Living with the Dominator by Pat Craven, go to www.freedomprogramme.co.uk. The Chapter can be downloaded, printed and given to professionals (solicitors, social workers, etc) to help them understand the dynamics of living with an abusive person. "I have been on the Freedom Programme and have a copy of Living with the Dominator by Pat Craven and really cannot recommend it too highly. It helped me finally understand what had been happening in my marriage and also helped me understand how my own beliefs had allowed me to get into such an abusive and unhealthy relationship. It really was one of those AHA! moments! I think one of the most helpful and encouraging aspects is that as well as explaining simply the underlying beliefs and the sort of behaviour the perpetrators of domestic abuse employ, Pat's book also shows us the opposite, The Friend, which means that not only are we aware of what to avoid, but it also gives us a much better idea of what a healthy, non-abusive relationship looks like - every chapter in the book ends on a positive. Thanks Pat!" (Lindsey Mason, webmaster of Hidden Hurt.) |
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