Mr. Wrong and Mr. Right
This information has kindly been provided by Pat Craven who runs
The
Freedom Programme ©
An abusive man ... |
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- shouts
- sulks
- smashes things
- glares
- calls you names
- makes you feel ugly and useless
- cuts you off from your friends
- stops you working
- never admits he is wrong
- blames you, drugs, drink, stress etc.
- turns the children against you
- uses the children to control you
- never does his share of the housework
- never looks after the children
- expects sex on demand
- controls the money
- threatens or wheedles you to get his
own way
- seduces your friends/sister/anyone
- expects you to be responsible for his
well-being
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A non-abusive man ... |
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- is cheerful
- consistent
- supportive
- tells you you look good
- tells you you're competent
- uses your name
- trusts you
- trusts your judgment
- welcomes your friends and family
- encourages you to be independent
- supports your learning, career etc.
- admits to being wrong
- is a responsible parent
- is an equal parent
- does his share of the housework
- accepts that you have a right to say
"no" to sex
- shares financial responsibility
- takes responsibility for his own well-being
and happiness
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The Freedom Programme is a 12-week rolling programme held in different
venues across the UK which aims to help women who want to learn
more about the realities of domestic violence and abuse. It helps
women understand the beliefs held by abusive men and in so doing,
recognise which of these beliefs they have shared and illustrates
the effects of domestic violence on children. In understanding the
underlying beliefs held by abusive men and the methods utilised
by them to control women and children, it helps women gain self-esteem
and confidence to improve the quality of their lives and also recognise
potential future abusers.
The Freedom Programme can also help abusive men who want to change
their behaviour.
To find out more about The Freedom Programme and find out whether
there is one running near you, click on the link below:
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